Psychologists warn that seemingly harmless phrases uttered to children before their first day of school can actually be detrimental to their emotional adjustment. Common reassurances like “You’re big now, why be scared?” or “There’s nothing to worry about!” invalidate a child’s genuine feelings. These statements imply that experiencing emotions is inappropriate for older children and dismisses the significance of their anxieties. Instead of offering dismissive comments, parents should acknowledge and validate their child’s fears and uncertainties. Experts suggest open communication and allowing children to express their emotions without judgment. Understanding the disconnect between parental intent and a child's interpretation is crucial for a smoother school transition.