Columnist Molly Quell expresses anxieties about potentially over-assimilating into Dutch society through the “inburgering” (integration) process. She questions whether she has lost touch with her original self in the pursuit of fitting in. Quell reflects on the pressures to conform and the subtle ways integration requirements can alter one’s identity. The piece explores the delicate balance between embracing a new culture and preserving one's heritage. It raises broader questions about the psychological impact of assimilation on individuals. Quell’s concerns resonate with others navigating similar experiences, prompting a discussion about the complexities of integration. Ultimately, she wonders if the process advises people to “save yourselves while you still can.”